Mental Health

Leon im only ever a message or whatssap away.
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That goes for anyone who reads this.

Thank you so much for the messages. I’ll look into your suggestions this week.

Well they say it’s good to talk and share so here goes. I’ve always looked at the rise in mental health especially amongst men as a fad of our times. I mean it’s everywhere everyone is talking about it these days, everyone knows someone suffering with it, the new fool proof replacement for back ache at work. My thought process was like how can there be so many weak, insensitive, and selfish people, jumping on this bandwagon robbing the needs of those generally struggling with mental health.

This was from a man living a comfortable life living in a big posh house in Humberston a beautiful wife, and 2 amazing kids, as far from mental health as you could get…. Ignorant!
Fast forward 6 months I’m now living alone for the first time ever in my life with heartache, loneliness, and depression wondering how I’m going to get through Xmas, I’ve been on the verge of ending the pain the easy way and found myself being taken by the police to Harrison house. I’m still having counselling, and attending the Andy’s man club at the college when I can make it, not sure if it makes a difference at the minute but time will tell.

I now realise I was was someone who never really appreciated what he had but now it’s gone it’s to late. Happiness is precious if you have this in your life then you need to remind yourself you’re one of the lucky ones. Trying to stay positive and trying to look forward now I have a home, a job and I’m now seeing my children regularly there are a lot worse off people than me I keep telling myself. What I will say to anyone suffering please don’t bottle it up, just talking about it helps massively there is no shame or weakness, there is loads of help out there even speaking with your doctor helps they will offer you free counselling.

Quoted from Humbercod

Well they say it’s good to talk and share so here goes. I’ve always looked at the rise in mental health especially amongst men as a fad of our times. I mean it’s everywhere everyone is talking about it these days, everyone knows someone suffering with it, the new fool proof replacement for back ache at work. My thought process was like how can there be so many weak, insensitive, and selfish people, jumping on this bandwagon robbing the needs of those generally struggling with mental health.

This was from a man living a comfortable life living in a big posh house in Humberston a beautiful wife, and 2 amazing kids, as far from mental health as you could get…. Ignorant!
Fast forward 6 months I’m now living alone for the first time ever in my life with heartache, loneliness, and depression wondering how I’m going to get through Xmas, I’ve been on the verge of ending the pain the easy way and found myself being taken by the police to Harrison house. I’m still having counselling, and attending the Andy’s man club at the college when I can make it, not sure if it makes a difference at the minute but time will tell.

I now realise I was was someone who never really appreciated what he had but now it’s gone it’s to late. Happiness is precious if you have this in your life then you need to remind yourself you’re one of the lucky ones. Trying to stay positive and trying to look forward now I have a home, a job and I’m now seeing my children regularly there are a lot worse off people than me I keep telling myself. What I will say to anyone suffering please don’t bottle it up, just talking about it helps massively there is no shame or weakness, there is loads of help out there even speaking with your doctor helps they will offer you free counselling.

Glad things are looking up for you cod. I hope things continue to progress. Utm

How a  scarred past  affects people especially children which is so sad to read.  Wish some children didn't have to go through stuff and life was more ideal 🕯️. Hence the world isn't bad it's what some humans  do to each other that make it appear that way :

The PTSD brains of children and soldiers

Scientists have discovered that the brain structures of traumatised soldiers and children change in the same way.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/av/health-35595086

Quoted from Humbercod

Well they say it’s good to talk and share so here goes. I’ve always looked at the rise in mental health especially amongst men as a fad of our times. I mean it’s everywhere everyone is talking about it these days, everyone knows someone suffering with it, the new fool proof replacement for back ache at work. My thought process was like how can there be so many weak, insensitive, and selfish people, jumping on this bandwagon robbing the needs of those generally struggling with mental health.

This was from a man living a comfortable life living in a big posh house in Humberston a beautiful wife, and 2 amazing kids, as far from mental health as you could get…. Ignorant!
Fast forward 6 months I’m now living alone for the first time ever in my life with heartache, loneliness, and depression wondering how I’m going to get through Xmas, I’ve been on the verge of ending the pain the easy way and found myself being taken by the police to Harrison house. I’m still having counselling, and attending the Andy’s man club at the college when I can make it, not sure if it makes a difference at the minute but time will tell.

I now realise I was was someone who never really appreciated what he had but now it’s gone it’s to late. Happiness is precious if you have this in your life then you need to remind yourself you’re one of the lucky ones. Trying to stay positive and trying to look forward now I have a home, a job and I’m now seeing my children regularly there are a lot worse off people than me I keep telling myself. What I will say to anyone suffering please don’t bottle it up, just talking about it helps massively there is no shame or weakness, there is loads of help out there even speaking with your doctor helps they will offer you free counselling.

Sorry to hear that Humbo.

I've been there, so I know how you feel. All I can say is keep jumping those hurdles mate and eventually they will be behind you. Time really is a great healer, so get through each day in whatever way you can.

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I always struggle in the winter and this year is no different. It’s probably something to do with sunlight but also the things I enjoy doing and use for distractions (golf and walking) become less available. I’m getting to the point in life now where I’m regretting some of the choices I made earlier in life with regards career. I’m somewhat of a social hand grenade so I’m becoming a bit reclusive and socially awkward (at the very best) if I do. Anyway I left an event after having a bit of a moment last night and was walking country roads in the cold and dark and I now think it’s time to act on it.

You probably know this already, but it sounds like you may have seasonal affective disorder or SAD. A mate of mine gets it and has had good results with light therapy.

May be worth a try if you haven't already.

Quoted from ginnywings

You probably know this already, but it sounds like you may have seasonal affective disorder or SAD. A mate of mine gets it and has had good results with light therapy.

May be worth a try if you haven't already.

It worked for my Brother and my Dad. I was talking to someone about it the other day and then saw this when browsing the bbc news site:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programm.....help-boost-your-mood

I'm more or less retired now, so I can get out and about in what little daylight hours we have at this time of year, but I can understand how difficult it can be for someone who works indoors and probably travels to and from work in the dark.

I walk everyday, at least 5 miles and usually more, and love that I live on the coast, as I love being by the sea. My second favourite place to be is in the woods. I think the cool millenials call it forest bathing, but an hour or two in Weelsby or Bradley Woods does wonders for my mood.

Whenever me and Mrs G go travelling in our camper, we always end up by the sea or in some forest somewhere. I get log cabin fever if I can't get out into nature for a while and my mood suffers. Most of my working life has been spent outdoors or partially outdoors but my mate who suffered from SAD worked in a Humber Bank factory most of his life and sometimes didn't see daylight for days depending on his shifts. Since he retired, he has coped with winter much better.

Anyway, the shortest day has been and gone now and the days get longer by 2 minutes in the morning and 2 minutes at night. Won't be long before the bright days are here.

Yes Ginny I have been messaged by a few people to say this is what it’s likely to be and reading the NHS site it definitely looks to be that to me. Like you I cover a lot of ground on foot in the summer (probably nearer to ten miles a day between March and October) but it significantly drops in the winter although it’s still around the five mile mark. I have previously suffered low mood and the first thing I was advised to do was to exercise so took up running and walking and haven’t stopped since.

In lockdown I saw it described as getting your vitamin ‘n’ (for nature). I live near Bradley and Dixon Woods and run and walk through there regularly. Not much can beat the tranquility of a early summer sunrise in there. We found Saltfleet (on rainy or very windy days so the regulars aren’t there ) ideal for dogwalking in lockdown too. There’s probably two miles of sand from the car park to the sea at low tide there. If there’s anyone feeling a bit off it I’d recommend a walk in nature as a good way to clear your head. There’s so many sounds, birds, animals and fauna that we take for granted in our corner of the world - go and look for them for an hour or two.

I work in a building without windows as it is but I get there and leave in darkness at this time if year on days and nights. As I’m off for the best part of three weeks I’ve held off going to the GP to see if my mood lifts but will be going in the new year to see what they say.