Mental Health

What I like about this thread is people can open up about stuff within reason ( complete trust is difficult I find as no person is pure).

I often go back to what I read about Mike Tyson. No matter how tough someone seems on the exterior there is always a part in someone's character that makes them crumble and it's ok . Prior to his fights when younger he often cried before getting in the ring as he was nervous and scared believe it or not.

As people have  said on this mental health thread it's ok to show human emotion and cry about things. Often in the past it wasn't manly to show emotion. It is though as we're all susceptible to things emotionally.  

Quoted from Humbercod

I went years and years without crying, despite some quite traumatic events, yet I was bizarrely proud of the fact I hadn't cried in so long.  As if my stubbornness and inability to express myself was a badge of honour.  Red flags going off all over the place and I ignored them.

This was me for most of my life weddings, funerals, sad movies I would of rather died than be seen crying, sometimes I would struggle to hold back but then I’d just leave the situation.

Watched a Disney movie with the kids at the weekend and the kids were in a bit of shock I think when they noticed my tears 😂
Feels so much better to just be myself and I know there’s no shame in natural emotion.

Great advice by the way in your earlier post👍

Good to see you posting Humbo.

Hope you're feeling better.

Quoted from ginnywings

Good to see you posting Humbo.

Hope you're feeling better.

Thanks Ginny, I’m doing well 👍

Bump!!

Hey guys, first time posting in this thread, but I’ve just recently had my first ever therapy session and I was the biggest naysayer of such things as part of the bullshit ‘British man who doesn’t need to whinge/complain because I just get on with life and and I don’t want to feel all moany when there’s worst things happening in the world’. My own insular attitudes resulted in me screwing up some parts of my private life and so I thought therapy wouldn’t hurt and… wow it really does help to be able to have access to such services. Glad to finally have moved past my reticence towards speaking about things

Quoted from WetFlannel

Hey guys, first time posting in this thread, but I’ve just recently had my first ever therapy session and I was the biggest naysayer of such things as part of the bullshit ‘British man who doesn’t need to whinge/complain because I just get on with life and and I don’t want to feel all moany when there’s worst things happening in the world’. My own insular attitudes resulted in me screwing up some parts of my private life and so I thought therapy wouldn’t hurt and… wow it really does help to be able to have access to such services. Glad to finally have moved past my reticence towards speaking about things

Well done fella! That first step is the hardest! It's so good seeing more and more men opening up and taking care of themselves.
If you don't mind me asking, what kind of therapy was it? I did talk therapy and it was a huge relief and helped me move forward alot quicker than I expected, the lady who did it was brilliant and I know it's their job but she genuinely made me feel like she cared and was a close friend

Quoted from WetFlannel

Hey guys, first time posting in this thread, but I’ve just recently had my first ever therapy session and I was the biggest naysayer of such things as part of the bullshit ‘British man who doesn’t need to whinge/complain because I just get on with life and and I don’t want to feel all moany when there’s worst things happening in the world’. My own insular attitudes resulted in me screwing up some parts of my private life and so I thought therapy wouldn’t hurt and… wow it really does help to be able to have access to such services. Glad to finally have moved past my reticence towards speaking about things

Congratulations.

Five months on from my first post on this thread and it’s a complete turnaround for me. Walked/ran 39 miles on golf courses and the Wolds this weekend, I’ve got a very faint sunburn on my face and arms and I’ve finished it off with a roast pork dinner tonight. This time of year is the best time for my and I’m sure many others mental wellbeing.

Quoted from LH

Five months on from my first post on this thread and it’s a complete turnaround for me. Walked/ran 39 miles on golf courses and the Wolds this weekend, I’ve got a very faint sunburn on my face and arms and I’ve finished it off with a roast pork dinner tonight. This time of year is the best time for my and I’m sure many others mental wellbeing.

Really glad you're more upbeat Leon.
It's funny you say this, I'd never heard of it until recently but apparently alot of people suffer from 'SAD' ( seasonal affectiveness disorder). Now I'm not for a second saying I do. But I definitely am more closed off and grumpy in the wintery months.

Quoted from LH

Five months on from my first post on this thread and it’s a complete turnaround for me. Walked/ran 39 miles on golf courses and the Wolds this weekend, I’ve got a very faint sunburn on my face and arms and I’ve finished it off with a roast pork dinner tonight. This time of year is the best time for my and I’m sure many others mental wellbeing.

I'm pleased to hear it Leon, take care and enjoy life again.