Mental Health

Dementia is a horrible disease.  My Mother had it and died at the age of 93 in a local care home.  My wife, and I, and also my sister, looked after her at home in her bungalow for 3 years before it became too difficult for us to manage her worsening condition.  She didn't want to go at first, but once she had been there a few days, she settled in to a daily routine.

After being rushed into hospital with Sepsis, her Doctor asked myself and my sister to consider signing a DNR (Do not resuscitate), as he explained that a further bout of Sepsis would almost certainly kill her, and that having needles stuck in her and various other procedures carried out on her would only cause her more pain.  We considered this for 24 hours, was the hardest decision of my life, but in the end signed the form.  A few weeks later she relapsed and was placed in end of life care, and eventually passed away in no pain at all.

46 coming on 47 years have flown by I feel very lucky the woman I love loved me and we shall always   have that despite dementia.

Star Man

Quoted from grimsby pete

46 coming on 47 years have flown by I feel very lucky the woman I love loved me and we shall always   have that despite dementia.

I’m choking up reading that Pete. What an incredible love you have which is so rare, and probably won’t exist in the future. Very lucky and very well deserved. You seem a great bloke

Quoted from Mariner_501

I’m choking up reading that Pete. What an incredible love you have which is so rare, and probably won’t exist in the future. Very lucky and very well deserved. You seem a great bloke

Thank you

Gold star from me Pete. Take care of yourself x

Thanks everybody just been to the home today she was very confused but happy at the same time singing songs to our daughter and me.

This looks to be an interesting book, the second he has written on the subject, and basically, things have got worse since his last, nine years ago.

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/heal.....ef96eb0b1d8&ei=8

Saw this recently which I thought was very profound from a black policeman (respect for trying to be positive change ) in the USA . Sometimes in our lives we all need some encouragement  to get us out of the dumps which life can throw up.  

THE FAIRNESS OF LIFE’S UNFAIRNESS

"I look back at what I’ve seen in the 51 years I’ve been alive. I’ve seen so much unfairness.

I’ve seen the sweetest people die too soon
The most evil live long
The richest in spirit live in poverty
The most morally bankrupt live in luxury
The most loving marginalized
The cruel adored
I’ve seen the innocent persecuted
And the guilty unpunished
I’ve seen those deserving of opportunity passed over
And those who are undeserving promote
I’ve seen those who deserve to die peacefully, die in agony.
I’ve seen those who deserve to be tormented, peacefully pass on
I’ve seen evil people made into heroes
And the truly good and brave slandered as monsters

When I see these things, my carnal mind tells me “What’s the point of being righteous?”

But in my spirit, I know that the sweetest, most decent, loving and righteous, are sometimes needed in the low places and moments to provide inspiration to others in that space to stay or be righteous. To keep loving, no matter what you are facing. To be the light no matter the hand you are dealt. There lies the fairness. He puts the righteous in every situation so the different levels of the world aren’t so dark".

Dean Joseph

The world is unfair Rick but there is nothing we can do to change things.

Except the cards you are delt and if there is a next time we might come back as millionaires.

I don't think there is a next time well I hope there isn't cos I might come back in a third world country with no job no money and starving.

At least we have lived this life in the best country in the world.

I have visited many in my life and I am always pleased to come home.