Mental Health

Quoted from 123614

My memory is poor now, but it was some kind of Cognitive Therapy?  I attended several sessions but they had no effect whatsoever.

The BACP have a directory which is a good place to start for more information and to look at what different therapists offer and where.

https://www.bacp.co.uk/?gclid=EAIaIQobChMIu-7Z8PqygwMV_YxQBh0tOwfEEAAYASAAEgKBiPD_BwE

Thanks mate.

Quoted from 123614

Thanks mate.

No bother 👍🏻

I am having a hard time at the moment since my wife went into a nursing home , I could no longer look after her at home even though we were having a pair of carers coming in four times a day.

It is very hard here without her because for 46 years we have done everything together which was going to watch town at home and away in our younger years.Now neither of us can get to a game because of our health problems.

It's good to talk I have always said and the family are always running me about as I can not drive now and they are always there for a chat and I have friends here and on the fishy I can talk to when I am down.

I go up to the nursing home most days which is about 8 miles up the road... It's nice to sit with her and have chat or just sit there if she is having one of her sleepy days. Our daughter and grandkids are very good driving me about.

Dementia is a very horrible illness but there are times that make us laugh we have been told not to correct her when she comes out with strange stories just to agree with her all the time.

That's easy for me to do because when she was well she was always right and I was always wrong.  

She talks to me all the time when I am not there and let's me in her bed .. When I return to our home I find myself talking to her it might be making me lose my mind but I find it works for me because it's the only time I have won an argument.

46 years together is amazing Pete. So sorry you are having a hard time, but remember all the good times mate, and thank whoever needs to be thanked for all those years of happiness. Never managed anywhere near that length of time with one person, and I can't imagine how tough it is for you right now.

Having a tough time myself, but wish you well.

Quoted from grimsby pete

I am having a hard time at the moment since my wife went into a nursing home , I could no longer look after her at home even though we were having a pair of carers coming in four times a day.

It is very hard here without her because for 46 years we have done everything together which was going to watch town at home and away in our younger years.Now neither of us can get to a game because of our health problems.

It's good to talk I have always said and the family are always running me about as I can not drive now and they are always there for a chat and I have friends here and on the fishy I can talk to when I am down.

I go up to the nursing home most days which is about 8 miles up the road... It's nice to sit with her and have chat or just sit there if she is having one of her sleepy days. Our daughter and grandkids are very good driving me about.

Dementia is a very horrible illness but there are times that make us laugh we have been told not to correct her when she comes out with strange stories just to agree with her all the time.

That's easy for me to do because when she was well she was always right and I was always wrong.  

She talks to me all the time when I am not there and let's me in her bed .. When I return to our home I find myself talking to her it might be making me lose my mind but I find it works for me because it's the only time I have won an argument.

46 years is amazing and something I admire and aspire to with my better half Pete. Congratulations and what a gift you’ve given and continue to give one another.

Sorry you are suffering too Ginny!

Pete, my grandparents have experienced something similar  with my grandad being in hospital for most of the year and my nana remaining at home. He’s home now but won’t have long with her there. You need to take comfort that she is getting the care she needs and you can cherish the moments you get with her as a husband rather than as a carer.

Quoted from 123614

Where do you find out about Talk Therapy?    I suffered with anxiety in my late teens, and then was diagnosed with PTSD some years after I left the Army.  I tried various medications, but couldn't cope with the side effects chich mainly consisted of horrific nightmares.  I was referred to a Psychiatrist for 6 sessions, which helped reduce the nightmare's but still left me with other symptoms of PTSD which I have to this day.  I also tried counselling, didn't work, so would be interested to learn a little more about Talk Therapy.

My doctor (to be fair they're amazing) offered me councilling and it didn't work so they then put me down for talk therapy. It took a couple of months before it started. I got 6 free sessions, which isn't much but it helped

I'm so sorry to hear this Pete. If you ever need to chat or just text someone about town or just general life stuff give me a message  anytime.

Also Pete do you get to watch town games online? I'm more than happy to try help set you up so you can watch them. Free of charge (I'll pay for the year subscription for you) all you need is a firestick, a phone (that isn't an iphone), laptop or tablet.